Listening is an action you must want to be a part of. A state of mind that you are involved with a burning desire to be in any kind of relationship that patterns a lifetime to include the world around you . You must choose to want to listen attentively, without reaction, and be engaged. You must either interact or be withdrawn but always be part of a healthy conversation. Not every conversation will you be the one talking. Sometimes you will just have to listen. Take part in being God's vessel to listen when needed.
New International Version
6 Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone