As a sexually abuse and intimate partner violence individual , our CEO Cynthya Pagan Hale would have never believe she could have ever been categorized herself as a sexually abused individual 28 years ago. But like many other women who are soldiers in the military or are military wives
she found herself stationed with her husband in MCAS Marine Corps Air Station in Wilmington, NC with her now ex-husband who was a Lance Corporal. Her marriage was beautiful until she became pregnant and everything changed. Her husband decided to get a small house off base and that is when the abuse started, he would measure her food, sexually abuse and rape her while she was pregnant with her first born son, remove the battery from car & spark plugs, and even flatten the tires from their car to prevent her from leaving and keep her bound to the domicile they lived in and ensure she could never tell anyone on base.
CDC, one in three women In the United States have experienced sexual violence involving physical contact at some point in their lives. Considering that sexual violence against women is by all accounts under-reported, the actual number may be higher. Psychology Today states, "Psychologically, sex contains violent undertones and vice versa. The link reveals itself both in the language we use to describe sex—conquest, surrender—and in how our words for sex commonly serve double duty as aggressive insults...Psychologically, sex contains violent undertones and vice versa. The link reveals itself both in the language we use to describe sex—conquest, surrender—and in how our words for sex commonly serve double duty as aggressive insults."
Common words and insults are something common and go along hand and hand with the objectification and the narcissistic behavior of a the abuser and the individual abused. As quoted by the Outreach Specialist at Florin | Roebig Trial Attorneys, Courtney Collins;
"We created a guide, https://florinroebig.com/sexual-assault-guide/, as an opportunity to shed light on some of the most common questions we hear from victims, such as:
What Is Considered Sexual Assault?
Is Sexual Assault Considered Rape?
What Are My Rights After A Sexual Assault incident? "
Many individuals do not know their rights and all the questions concerning sexual assault but hopefully this will assist to open some eyes and hearts and help those in need.
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